Giftige ingredienser som kan ødelegge kjærligheten

Forskere ved Gottman-instituttet har i mange tiår forsøkt å finne ut hva som skader og styrker et kjærlighetsforhold. De har kommet frem til fire spesielt giftige ingredienser: Kritikk, forakt forsvar og avstenging. I videoen under forklarer de mer, og gir noen tips til hvordan man kan detoxe forholdet sitt. Verdt en titt!

Reklamer

Tenk deg nøye om…

… når var egentlig sist du tenkte deg nøye om? En ny metastudie viser at majoriteten av oss faktisk synes det er ubehagelig å måtte sitte alene med tankene våre, selv om det bare er noen minutter:

“We had noted how wedded to our devices we all seem to be and that people seem to find any excuse they can to keep busy,” said Timothy Wilson, a psychology professor at the University of Virginia and lead author of the study. “No one had done a simple study letting people go off on their own and think.”

The results surprised him and have created a stir in the psychology and neuroscience communities. In 11 experiments involving more than 700 people, the majority of participants reported that they found it unpleasant to be alone in a room with their thoughts for just 6 to 15 minutes.

Moreover, in one experiment, 64 percent of men and 15 percent of women began self-administering electric shocks when left alone to think. These same people, by the way, had previously said they would pay money to avoid receiving the painful jolt.

It didn’t matter if the subjects engaged in the contemplative exercise at home or in the laboratory, or if they were given suggestions of what to think about, like a coming vacation; they just didn’t like being in their own heads.

It could be because human beings, when left alone, tend to dwell on what’s wrong in their lives. We have evolved to become problem solvers and meaning makers. What preys on our minds, when we aren’t updating our Facebook page or in spinning class, are the things we haven’t figured out — difficult relationships, personal and professional failures, money trouble, health concerns and so on. And until there is resolution, or at least some kind of understanding or acceptance, these thoughts reverberate in our heads. Hello rumination. Hello insomnia.

Les mer i artikkelen No Time to Think hos The New York Times

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Thinking Cap

Hvem er du, terapeut?

En ny studie tyder på at personlige egenskaper hos terapeuten har stor betydning for hvor godt utbytte pasienten får av terapien. Stor faglig selvtillit fra terapeutens side, ga ikke nødvendigvis god behandling – et funn som overrasket psykolog og forsker Helene Amundsen Nissen-Lie.

– Vi så at hos terapeuter som tvilte på egen kompetanse, hadde pasientene mer positiv effekt av terapien. Hun mener forskning på psykoterapi lenge har neglisjert problemstillingen med individuelle forskjeller mellom terapeuter, også kalt terapeuteffekten – kanskje fordi svarene man får kan bli ubehagelige.

Studien som tyder på at litt terapeut-tvil kan være bra, er en del av Nissen-Lies doktoravhandling ved Psykologisk institutt ved Universitetet i Oslo, som hun fullfører i disse dager.

– Vi tror at sammenhengen her kan skyldes at terapeuter som oppgir mer tvil evner å reflektere over eget bidrag i terapien. Det vil tilsi at de er mer ydmyke, og dermed er mer sensitive og lydhøre ovenfor pasienten, sier hun.

Illustrasjon hentet fra morgenbladet.no

Illustrasjon hentet fra morgenbladet.no

Ny forskning belyser bivirkninger av antidepressiva

Fra PsychCentrals artikkel Warning: These Antidepressant Side Effects May Be Downplayed:

A new study discovers psychological problems resulting from depression medications have been understated, leading some authorities to question if the drugs have been over-prescribed. (…) Over half of people aged 18 to 25 in the study reported suicidal feelings and in the total sample there were large percentages of people suffering from “sexual difficulties” (62 percent) and “feeling emotionally numb” (60 percent).

Percentages for other effects included: “feeling not like myself” (52 percent), “reduction in positive feelings” (42 percent), “caring less about others” (39 percent) and “withdrawal effects” (55 percent). However, 82 percent reported that the drugs had helped alleviate their depression.

Gjør meg lykkelig!

Lykkeforskning (og egentlig alt annet man kan putte inn i samlesekken «positiv psykologi») er virkelig i vinden om dagen, men jeg må alltid stusse litt etter å ha lest, sett eller hørt om det nyeste fra lykkefronten. Det virker som at forskerne ofte glemmer at de baserer seg på selvrapport, som er en datainnsamlingsmetode med til tider ganske store svakheter. Denne artikkelen hos Big Think systematiserer lykkeforskningsfeltets muligheter og feilkilder på en lettfattelig måte.

While problems with context challenges the validity of the research, it especially makes comparing happiness over time, like when the Gallup World Poll declared that Americans in 2012 were the happiest since 2008, inherently flawed. Maybe our standards have just dropped. Who’s to say?

But as happiness metrics gain traction as a way to measure societal progress and direct government policy, it’s important to understand its limits and especially its dependence on implicit assumptions. As long as we’re going to build a new scientific vehicle to steer society forward, let’s also be sure to take a look at the road.

via If You’re Happy and You Know It, Check this Box. If You Hate Yourself and Want to Die, Please Elaborate Below | Experts’ Corner | Big Think.

Det skal allikevel sies, at tar man av forskerbrillene et øyeblikk kan lykkeforskning være ganske underholdende, faktisk på grensen til rørende og inspirerende, for eksempel i filmen Happy.

Happy – A Documentary Trailer from Wadi Rum Films on Vimeo.